What does your Self-Image reflect?

What we say about ourselves is far more critical than what others say about us. At times, perhaps the two agree, ourselves and others, but where does it begin? Where does this reflection, our self-image come from in the first place? What is accurate, and where does falsehood begin?

If I believe that I would like to lose a few pounds, begin working out or dieting, or perhaps make some other change and drop 15 pounds, and someone jokes that I am fat, what do I do with that? The good news is, your “fatness” is entirely up to you. The less negativity you can use with yourself, the better your self-image comes organically. You don’t need the reflection that others see; only you can fully know who you are.

What do overweight people do in the first place to receive scorn from others? Does it automatically mean that they are lazy, or any other negative term we can toss their way because it is easy? In a culture that generates notions such as “if you are not in the room, you are the topic.” How easy it is to blame others for our unhappiness with our lives, so many little things such as appearance are prime targets for the pillar of shame. Once you are on it, it cannot be easy to be free.

But that is because we allow ourselves to stay there. Perhaps we don’t care if other people say we are too short. That can be a good thing in that we do not need the approval of others to be whom they feel we should be. Still, while a person regarded as overweight can do something about their weight as it applies to their self-image if they choose, there is not much one can do about their height physically, but they certainly can emotionally.

The trick is to process the messages we get from the outside world responsibly, much like drinking alcohol. Of course, most people can have a drink now and then add a little “fun” to their evening out. However, sometimes the amount of alcohol, or messages we choose to allow to get in, is harmful, both physically and emotionally.

Take the offerings from the outside in small doses and see how you feel about it afterward. If you do not feel good, then perhaps change your taste, habits, friends, or sources of information. But behind all of this is first and foremost how you feel about yourself. Make sure you are telling yourself the truth and not hiding behind outside sources to bypass the responsibility you have for your happiness. It is hard to see goodness in the world when if you have a low self-image.

You can do anything if you put your mind to it, but it must be your mind. Fully functioning and present so you can chart your course. In time, as you let go of thoughts about yourself that do not make sense, you will find the answer to the problems you think you had in front of you as the problems disappear in the first place. The confidence this will give you is one of your most powerful allies. It gets stronger every day as you strive to make the best decision based on truth and not opinion.

Understanding the truth of your conditions will enable you to live life instead of letting life live you.

What does our self-image reflect?

What we say about ourselves is far more critical than what others say about us. At times, perhaps the two agree, ourselves and others, but where does it begin? Where does this reflection that is seen come from in the first place? What is accurate, and where does falsehood begin?

If I believe that I would like to lose a few pounds, begin working out or dieting, or perhaps make some other change and drop 15 pounds, and someone jokes that I am fat, what do I do with that? The good news is, your “fatness” is entirely up to you. The less negativity you can use with yourself, the better your self-image comes organically. You don’t need the reflection that others see; only you can fully know who you are.

What do overweight people do in the first place to receive scorn from others? Does it automatically mean that they are lazy, or any other negative term we can toss their way because it is easy? In a culture that generates notions such as “if you are not in the room, you are the topic.” How easy it is to blame others for our unhappiness with our lives, so many little things such as appearance are prime targets for the pillar of shame. Once you are on it, it cannot be easy to be free.

But that is because we allow ourselves to stay there. Perhaps we don’t care if other people say we are too short. That can be a good thing in that we do not need the approval of others to be who they feel we should be. Still, while a person regarded as overweight can do something about their weight as it applies to their self-image if they choose, there is not much one can do about their height physically, but they certainly can emotionally.

The trick is to process the messages we get from the outside world responsibly, much like drinking alcohol. Of course, most people can have a drink now and then add a little “fun” to their evening out. However, sometimes the amount of alcohol, or messages we choose to allow to get in, is harmful, both physically and emotionally.

Take the offerings from the outside in small doses and see how you feel about it afterward. If you do not feel good, then perhaps change your taste, habits, friends, or sources of information. But behind all of this is first and foremost how you feel about yourself. Make sure you are telling yourself the truth and not hiding behind outside sources to bypass the responsibility you have for your happiness. It is hard to see goodness in the world when if you have a low self-image.

You can do anything if you put your mind to it, but it must be your mind. Fully functioning and present so you can chart your course. In time, as you let go of thoughts about yourself that do not make sense, you will find the answer to the problems you think you had in front of you as the problems disappear in the first place. The confidence this will give you is one of your most powerful allies. It gets stronger every day as you strive to make the best decision based on truth and not opinion.

Understanding the truth of your conditions will enable you to live life instead of letting life live you.

Steve Patterson Blog, Recovery

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